i’m sorry

to the lady in the older burgundy buick: i’m sorry. i’m usually much nicer than that. i think it was the little bob-and-weave you did into my lane before you looked and saw me coming and kinda overcorrected the other way. it freaked me out, so instead of my usual behavior towards lane changers (give them space, wave them over), well, i chose the more aggressive response of punching it to get out of your way. and i felt bad, because being polite always feels good. i mean, you were using your turn signal, you just weren’t looking. or going with the flow of traffic.

hint for those wanting to merge into another lane: slowing down to contemplate your options is not the safest or most efficient way. if you are going two thirds the speed of other traffic, it’s damn hard to assimilate into it. just a thought.

6 thoughts on “i’m sorry

  1. Unless you live in Minneapolis, where all of the drivers seem content to go about fifteen miles under the speed limit, never use their horns, don’t know HOW to merge, and wear blinders.

  2. you know, i have to admit that here in this part of Southern California, we don’t have the outward aggression of, say, LA drivers, and we certainly don’t have the outright incompetence of some places, but, i still complain.

    i know that driving is hard. when i’m going defensively on my way, i look not only at the cars around me, but at their drivers. i expect the teenagers and the senior citizens to be bad at it. i expect moms in SUVs with the whole soccer team in the back to be distracted. but, is it so much to ask that, on our way to work in the morning, that the folks my age at the peak of our driving skills (with the balance of experience and still having reflexes), in our cars by ourselves, to be able to merge?

    i suppose it is.

  3. If you expect the worst in others, you’ll never be disappointed and often pleasantly surprised. I learned to drive on a motorcycle, and so I just assume that I am invisible to everyone, even when I’m in a big car. It seems to work for me.

  4. assuming invisibility is probably the best strategy i’ve ever heard for defensive driving. it’s pretty much how i operate.

    well, generally, i look for eye contact, to see if they see me, but this isn’t always good — the other day a very old, little old lady in a white camry (you remember details in scary incidents like this) looked right at me, doing the speed limit on a 40mph street — looked RIGHT at me, as she slowly crept out of the driveway and into my lane. i saw her creeping and planned an escape route, which i took, and since it was a monday morning i laid on the horn for a good five seconds as i did.

    never phased her. she didn’t even flinch. sheesh.

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