in respectful response to Dru:
though i do not disagree with the statements “all white people are racist”, “…the same belief about men and sexism, heterosexual people and heterosexism, etc”, i must express some objections.
i believe there is hope. i believe there has been progress. and i understand that Dru’s statements reflect an absolute, a feeling that if we are not something, we cannot understand what it is like, and are therefore among the opressor’s numbers.
i think this line of thinking is overwhelmingly negative, and therefore not conducive to healing and growth. i think if we are trying, and always willing to admit our mistakes along that path, we can be exempt from the namecalling: racist. sexist. etc. i think calling ourselves names in the name of progress is more hurtful than it needs to be.
i think if we are trying, and willing to admit wrongs, we can be exempted from the labels and free ourselves to move on to the ideal, in which no one is marginalized. admittedly, this is an ideal that is too extreme to ever be pure and true. however. i’m willing to say, intentions and actions toward change, are good things, and should be celebrated. without the negativism of accusations of -isms.
but then again i’m in quite the fuzzy warm mood this evening.
i say we give ourselves credit for the effort, continue on the path, and refrain from calling ourselves -ist, unless we’ve committed some egregious violation of our ideals. it doesn’t mean we become complacent and think the struggle’s over, oh no. but it might help make the journey more joyful.
just a thought.